FreeBSD 10 pkg upgrade want to install wrong ruby version

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Ive installed rub 2.1 from ports, then set RUBY_VER=2.1 in /etc/make.conf

along with other ports installed after, all matching the ruby version, and
nginx is installed also

however pkg upgrade tried to upgrade and install the following

pkg upgrade
Updating repository catalogue
Upgrades have been requested for the following 61 packages:

        Upgrading curl: 7.35.0 -> 7.36.0
        Upgrading gcc47: 4.7.4.20140315 -> 4.7.4.20140329
        Reinstalling libgpg-error-1.12 (options changed)
        Reinstalling libxslt-1.1.28_1 (direct dependency changed)
        Upgrading perl5: 5.16.3_8 -> 5.16.3_9
        Installing ruby: 1.9.3.484_2,1
        Reinstalling ruby19-gems-1.8.29 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling ruby19-mysql-2.8.2_1 (direct dependency changed)
        Installing ruby19-iconv: 1.9.3.484,1
        Reinstalling rubygem-ansi-1.4.3 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-arel3-3.0.3,1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-builder-3.0.4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-bundler-1.5.3 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-coffee-script-source-1.7.0 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-daemon_controller-1.1.8 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-erubis-2.7.0_1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-fastthread-1.0.7 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-hike-1.2.3 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-i18n-0.6.9,2 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-journey-1.0.4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-json-1.8.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-json_pure-1.8.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-memcache-client-1.8.5 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-mime-types-1.25.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-minitest-5.3.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-multi_json-1.9.2 (options changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-nokogiri-1.6.1_1 (direct dependency changed)
        Installing apache22: 2.2.27
        Reinstalling rubygem-polyglot-0.3.4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rack-1.4.5,3 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rack-cache-1.2 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rack-ssl-1.3.4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rack-test-0.6.2 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rake-10.2.2 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-sass-3.3.4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-sqlite3-1.3.9 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-thor-0.19.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-tilt-2.0.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-tilt1-1.4.1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-treetop-1.4.15 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-turn-0.9.6 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-tzinfo-0.3.39 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling swig13-1.3.40 (options changed)
        Reinstalling ruby19-fcgi-0.8.8 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-activesupport-3.2.17 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-execjs-2.0.2 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-mail-2.5.4_1,1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-passenger-4.0.35 (options changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-sprockets-2.12.0 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-uglifier-2.5.0 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-activemodel-3.2.17 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-activerecord-3.2.17 (options changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-activeresource-3.2.17 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-coffee-script-2.2.0_2 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-actionpack-3.2.17 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-railties-3.2.17_1 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-sass-rails-3.2.6_4 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-actionmailer-3.2.17 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-coffee-rails-3.2.2_1 (direct dependency
changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-jquery-rails-3.1.0 (direct dependency changed)
        Reinstalling rubygem-rails-3.2.17_1 (options changed)

The upgrade will require 76 MB more space

137 MB to be downloaded

Proceed with upgrading packages [y/N]:

is there any way this can be avoided i dont want to destroy the current
configuration,
i just want to upgrade the newer packages