change 2nd boot menu

[Joseph Vella]

I use grub, after that menu there is a FreeBSD menu with options for single 
user mode, safe mode, kernal loader, etc...

Is there a way to eliminate the FreesBSD menu and move those options to the 
grub menu?  (actually I only want a couple of those options, like safe mode, 
single user mode and the loader prompt or maybe just the option to boot into 
my previously compiled kernel)

Is there a way to have that menu shoot by unless I press a key?

At the very least how might I reduce the pause time?